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Rachel Monaco-Wilcox, Attorney and Mediator

Specializing in Elder Mediation                                                          [email protected]

Training in Milwaukee September  2017!  see sidebar

An Alternative to Crisis; Better Conversations

Mediation helps create better solutions, especially when families struggle to make decisions in the face of challenges of aging:

  • Quality of Life Issues and Living Transitions (driving, home services, etc.)
  • Health Care Decision Making / End of Life Choices
  • Financial Decision Making / Estate Planning
  • Trustee - Beneficiary Relationships
  • Estate Settlement and Probate
  • Real Estate and Family Business Succession
  •                                                                                      A trained mediator works with the  family, attorneys and other essential helping professionals to expand families' awareness of their options.   It can also resolve ongoing court matters in litigation.  
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    Rachel has trained more than 70 professionals in the area of Elder Mediation, and mediated cases in her private practice since 2009.  She's a frequent public speaker, advocate, and policy analyst regarding issues of the aging. 

    Aging is a Family Affair-- every family faces challenges, and comes with a unique history that influences choices about how to "age well." 

    Families in conflict seek alternatives and resources, and demand professional service that meets many diverse needs so that good decisions become possible again. 

    Mediation is efficient and effective:  your money and your time are well spent.

    Testimonials from clients and trainees

    • "Rachel is an excellent trainer. The recent Elder Mediation three-day training was excellent both in imparting substantive content and educating us on difficult emotional issues..."
      Ruth Irvings
    • "Thank you very much for your diligent and prolonged efforts through this trying mediation. I don?t think we would have reached this settlement without your guidance, interventi..."
      Mediation client
    AARP Highlights Elder Mediation: "Oh Brother, With Parents Aging, Squabbling Siblings Turn to Elder Mediation"
    NPR Story on Elder Mediation:  "Mediators Help Families with Tough Choices of Aging"

    AARP's September, 20, 2010 Bulletin has the full story,


    Elder Care: What it Means

    See the rest of the videos in the series here :

    Recent News

    Milwaukee Training in Elder Mediation: September of 2017 visit  for more information.

    Rachel's article "Elder Mediation: An Overview for Estate Planners," appears in Estate Planning magazine's October issue. 

    Rachel received the 2014 President's Award in November from the Wisconsin Association of Mediators for outstanding contributions to the field of mediation.

    Rachel was chosen as one of Milwaukee's 40 Under 40, class of 2013, by the Business Journal

    Rachel was featured in an exciting project in June of 2012 -- a video series on elder mediation and elder care--  see the videos here, and on the Publications page.

    Since Fall of 2011, Rachel also acts as Chair of the Justice Department and Asst. Professor at Mount Mary University in Milwaukee, Wisconsin.  Her work in elder mediation continues and broadens with this opportunity to research, teach, and write in the field as well as mediate.

    Rachel is serving on the Alternative Dispute Resolution Section Board of the Wisconsin State Bar  for the 2014- 2016 term.

    Wall Street Journal article, Feb. 5, "A Referee for Family Disputes,"appears in the Personal Finance section. .

    ABA Commission on Law and Aging highlights Elder Mediation

    When the Family Needs an Umpire:  The New York Times,

    When Elder Care Brings Back Sibling Tensions,  TIME MAGAZINE,,9171,1955601,00.html

     Old Age, From Youth's Narrow Prison, The NEW YORK TIMES,




    For more past presentations, see the Articles and Events Page

    Presented "Hard Bargains: Mediation and Financial Abuse Cases"  State Bar of Wisconsin, January 2015

    Presented “Reclaiming Our Third Age; reflections on Elder Law” Prairie Circle Unitarian Universalist Church, Grayslake IL, (February 2013)


    Presented “Overcoming Fear of Change; Dealing with Difficult Families” State of Wisconsin Office of the Blind and Visually Impaired, (April 2013)

    Publication of full-length review of Transformative Mediation; a Sourcebook , (November 2012)



    Presented “ Elder Law and the Baby Boomers,” Greater Milwaukee Association of Legal Professionals, (February 2013)